Hi Margie,
I can't use my computer at the moment. Whenever I try to open a program I end up with a completely empty blue desktop... :mad:
I was still working on the 2 Darden boys and will get back to them as soon as I got everything working again. It might take a little longer than usual to finish them this time.
Unfortunately I made the last image of my C drive too long ago so a restore is going to be a pain in the butt (excuse the lingo). That would mean having to reinstall a lot of programs, filters etc. so I am going to try to find the cause before I'll use that image.
Hannie
Hi Hannie,
Sorry I'm slow in answering--our satellite was down this morning. >:( Isn't modern technology wonderful when it works? Have you tried to doing a "cold boot' (as opposed to a refresh shut down)? What a bummer!
That is fine about the Darden pictures. Good Luck!
Margie
Hannie I've always found it helpful to threaten the offending computer with a hammer. Be sure to hold it up to the monitor so it can get a good look at it :funny:
MJ
Hannie have you put any new programs, updates etc on it recently? Tried a system restore?
Oh Hannie, where are you? Are you floating out in cyberspace somewhere or did your computer end up in a repair shop? :'( Worse yet, did you take MJ's advice and take a hammer to the offending PC?
Margie
Hannie must be in her closet writing on her slate?
:funny:
How did you know that MJ? Can a girl not have any privacy around here!
Hi guys and girls, and yes Margie, I did take a hammer to my computer! I am now using a friends computer so unfortunately I do not have enough time to read all the new messages yet. I also haven't been able to work on my latest project but will again very soon.
Tess, I did try restore points and such but something is interfering with the use of any program or tool, even the DVD drive will not act normal. Never seen anything like it, ah well that's what you get for looking at the naughty sites....Just kidding folks!!! On top of all the PC problems hubby is going through a rough spot and that is taking a lot of my energy to cope with it all. (do you hear the violins in the background?).
I wish I could have all of you guys over here for a drink (coffee's fine too) or so right now, I think it would be so much fun!
Well it looks like I will be back on the air in another couple of days, until then I wish you all a Merry, Happy and Healthy Christmas! Can't wait to get back to the forum!
:hug:
Hannie
Hannie, it's great to hear from you. After the mad rush of Christmas shopping today, a drink sounds good--the coffee can come later. Hope you have a Merry Christmas too and things get better at home.
Margie
Sounds like you're not having a great time over there Hannie. Hope the comp is back soon and you can get back in here. I thought my modem was dying so I have a new one sitting here ready to go. The old one is behaving itself now.
Can you imagine us lot getting together for a drink? It would be a laugh thats for sure. (http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v11/tessc/th_rollonfloor.gif)
Hannie,
You may have already tried this, if not its worth a shot, when mine was playing up recently I wound it back with a drive image I had made nearly two years before, that did no good, I kept having trouble until it finally stopped working all together.
I was in the process of ordering a new PC, when I decided to have one last try at fixing it, I removed all the memory modules and expansion cards and reseated them - checked all internal cables by unplugging and reseting, switched on the power and fired up. Hey Presto, better than a bought one, and and about $500.00 cheaper.
May not help in your case, but I can't think of anything else to suggest.
Max
Oh Hannie, I feel your pain! Wish we could all get together in person and put that hammer to your computer. We should take it as a wake-up call to BACK UP. I dust-busted the back of my computer yesterday morning, and I am sure it bought a few more months of life for my system.
Tomorrow I will BACK UP.
Jan
Hi!
Computer is back on and working, Photoshop + plug ins back where they should be! Hubby still feeling depressed , any suggestions as to how to get him out of it are welcome. (keep it decent though...)
Hope everyone had a great Christmas! In Holland you have 2 Christmas days which means 2 Christmas dinners as well, have to go on a diet now. I made the most delicious turkey pin wheels with sage stuffing served in a wonderful mushroom sauce. (made with mirepoix!). Never knew I could cook so well! :cool:
I have to get working on my project now so no more time for chit chat...
:loveit:
Hannie
Quote(keep it decent though...)
Why, oh why?
Quote from: kiska on December 27, 2007, 08:39:38 AM
Quote(keep it decent though...)
Why, oh why?
The Hannah speaking I assume? ;D
Hi Hannie
I've tied my hands behind my back to keep from posting this, but I've lost control in the madness of the holidays, so here goes – "You shoulda got a MAC!" They're like the energizer bunny -- they keep going and going and going! My G3, which I bought in 1998 is still purring along in the office as my back-up and data base, and all I've ever done to it is add memory and extra hard drive space. Any machine that can continue to function under 12 cats' worth of fur, barf and debris is a gem in my book.
I've looked high and low for it and can't find it in our mess of a house, but I have a great pen-and-ink drawing that I picked up at a renaissance fair a long time ago. It's a dragon standing in front of a computer holding a monstrous sledge hammer over the keyboard. The monitor says "strike any key." Familiar feeling???
I'm so sorry your hubby is going through a rough time. Especially tough during the holidays. I won't go into any details, but I only know one way to drag a spouse of the male persuasion out of the dumps. I hate to be a female chauvinist pig, but they ARE all alike. It ain't food and it ain't drugs or alcohol, so you know what I'm talking about. And don't any of you get uppity on me. I'm old – not dead! (All I can hear in my head are the grandkids hollering "GRANDMA!!!!!")
I'm all for an OPR coffee gathering. We need to find the transporter that's hidden with the FWW software and the poofer!
Hugs and best wishes for the new year. It's gonna be a good one!
Glenna
Glenna you always make me laugh!
Sometimes though even that cannot make a man happy! (I hope we will not be banned from the forum on account of naughty talk...) Depression is a tough thing to fight (and to be around)!
I'll keep working at it though. ;)
:hug:
Hannie
Welcome home Hannie! You were missed. To pull your husband out of the spot he is in isn't easy especially if he's not fighting it and gives in it. Gloomy days only add to it. Would you believe that some people have to have special lights to bask under during winter? It has something to do with the missing sunshine but with that being said the person also has to keep his/her wits about them and believe me, it's an every day fight. If you can't use medication then you have to use your mind. It is my nature to go to deep within myself, too and the pain it causes is real. Just let him know that you care and tell him this old gal said, "Fight!!"
Hugs
C
Hannie, it's so great to have you back! :loveit:
I understand and feel for what you are going through, as I too have a husband who suffers with a form of depression. More specifically, he suffers from panic attacks. This started about 20 years ago and suddenly things that we used to enjoy doing, would now trigger an attack. Once a person suffers a severe attack, they will try to avoid anything that might trigger another. These attacks are very similar to having a heart attack. Maybe for my husband it was easier to find a solution because the family doctor told him that the cause was due to a chemical imbalance in the brain and could be treated. These attacks were not his fault and nothing that he had control over. I hope you can get help for your husband and let him know this is not his fault or something he should feel ashamed about for seeking help. May you find someone who can help you and connect with your husband that he needs some help.
:hug:
Margie
Hannie -- I didn't say anything naughty, and you didn't say anything naughty. I think we're safe (if we can keep that evil Hannah out of it!). Implications don't count. That's my story, and I'm sticking to it!
If your beloved is suffering with depression, I can so feel for him. I was born with chronic depression, and the only thing that overcomes it is medication, because it's a physiological illness, not psychological. It really bites, because people want to help, want to know if you want to talk about it, etc., etc.; and no matter how well-meaning they are, no one can do anything. Not even the person going through it. One rides it out and then gets on with life as best one can. I'm a basically happy, easy-going person; I have a wonderful life; the best husband in the world, great kids and grandkids, friends that I adore and OPR, and yet when I get a bad "spell" I beg my husband to just shoot me and get it over with. I usually hole up and sleep and read (unless I have to work, and then I'm just very, very quiet, which freaks everyone out). Once I ride it out, I'm fine and content and busy and a royal pain in the butt (I'm Olympic class!).
Tell hubby, for what little comfort it'll be, that he's not alone and I hope he's able to get through it quickly. I know for sure that hugs help, so I'm sending some to him and to you for caring for someone who fights that battle. It's a monster!
Bless,
Glenna
Candy, I think you hit the nail right on the head. Hubby was born in Maine (which drove him "nuts" as he puts it) but lived in sunny California and Arizona prior to moving to the Netherland (6 years ago). The winter season is very hard on him and his joints, lots of pain so I'm hoping that by the time spring arrives he will feel a little better.
Margie, I've had panic attacks myself some years ago and they are very scary. Now if ever I feel one coming I start to sing to myself (softly). This forces me to breathe the right way and lower the oxygen level in my blood that causes the panic attack (hyperventilation). My hubby doesn't want to go to a Dutch shrink, he's in negative mode right now and it looks like I'll have to be patient and sit it out.
Glenna your personal story is the same as my husband's as is his reaction (just put a plastic bag over my head and pull it tightly...half jokingly). I am trying to be as supportive as possible, lots of hugs and nice turkey dinners!
When you first look at or listen to people it doesn't always show but lately I start to realize how much quiet suffering there is going on.
I love you all for caring, it really helps!
:loveit:
Hannie
Ladies, your men are so lucky to have spouses so understanding.
Hannie, I believe sun light and outdoors help. I like to do cross country skiing but we lost all the snow when the temperature went up above freezing and the rain poured last Saturday. My son came home for Christmas and we went to the zoo last week. He is 25 and probably was the oldest child with father in the zoo. :)
Glad to have you back Hannie. It sounds like your hubby has a rough time in the winter. I feel for you, mine is on meds for depression year round. A strict, loveless childhood and upbringing with no encouragement about his work has followed him all through his adult life unfortunately.
I usually drag him to the car at least once a month when he's not flat out working and we all go visit an old machinery or car museum. He lives and breathes machinery. It helps for a little while and he picks up for about a week after as we can look at the photos and chat about the trip.
It took me 20 years to get him to take holidays. He thought the world would end if he didn't work but now he loves them. We are off exploring at the end of January for 9 nights to the mainland. Everywhere we go there will be a museum or tours of old mines etc so he will be happy.
I hope your hubby will pick up as spring comes round. It is especially important you take care of yourself as well as its just as hard on the carer. :hug:
Tess, I never realized how many people are suffering from this condition. My husband had a normal loving upbringing but is very sensitive to cold weather and on top of that suffering from culture shock. I have been to the States many times and I think I understand some of what he is going through. It isn't easy to relocate when you are 50 years of age and having to learn a new (difficult) language.
Chen, I am not always as understanding as I come across here on the forum. Even today I lost my patience a bit and ended up yelling . Of course it isn't easy to always be patient and understanding but yelling only makes matters worse. I am going to get some counseling soon myself so I will know better how to cope when things get rough.
It is comforting to share this stuff with all of you...
:loveit:
Hannie
Praying for consolation for you and your husband, Hannie. Sometimes our humanity is too much with us..
Is it the time of the year that makes people susceptible? My husband, Mister Type A Network Engineer Nothing-Bothers-Me-Except-Slow-People-Who-Get-In-my-Way, has been emotionally poleaxed, something I've never seen in 35+ years. He came back from a visit to his ex-hippie doctor (we call him Dr. Green Tea) and his whole world had changed. He went from taking pills for his diabetes for 4 years and not thinking much about it to injecting insulin every day. After a week of his new reality we're both adjusting. I coddled him and injected him and made him chicken soup and I think he's accepted that he's not 25 and Superman any more - but he sure didn't like it.
MJ
Quotehe's accepted that he's not 25 and Superman any more - but he sure didn't like it
You too? I have yet to figure out how my 50 years old hubby gets depressed because he can't lug 200lb bags of stuff round like he used to. ::)
Hannie I can only imagine how difficult it is for your hubby to adjust to a big culture shock and a whole new language. Mine hates the cold too and threatens to move us as far north as possible each winter even though it doesnt even snow here.
I lose my patience with him on a daily basis but we always try to talk it out. I find my self talking about how things make me feel rather than blaming him. It makes the argument less 'its all your fault' type discussions.
I hope once spring comes around your hubby will brighten up and things will improve.